Stories

The Narcissist and the Empath

May 23, 2019

Google the relationship between a narcissist and an empath and you can see for yourself, just how toxic that journey can be… well, I survived it and let me tell you, I am still rebuilding myself and that process is going to take some time.

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Right after he coded

Fire and Heart: Finding Silver Linings When the Universe Hates You

May 16, 2019

Hi, I’m Melissa. In October of 2017 I became a victim of the Tubbs Fire that burned through Santa Rosa, California. Then two months later, I gave birth to my son Apollo, who would have four major surgeries before he was eight months old as a result of a severe heart defect.

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1906 Earthquake Commemoration - 2018

1906 Earthquake Commemoration and Lyrics to “San Francisco”

April 17, 2019

Every year in the early morning hours of April 18th, a group of people gather at Lotta’s Fountain in San Francisco to commemorate the anniversary of the 1906 earthquake and fires. It’s not a large group – sometimes it seems like the press outnumber the attendees. Folks, many who have links to survivors of the quake, some dressed in period clothing, gather to remember the event and the devastating impact it had on the city. There is always a call to be prepared. The next “big one” could always be just around the corner.

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Tidying Up

Sometimes I want to punch Marie Kondo in the face

February 22, 2019

When you’ve lost everything in a fire, you kind of want to punch Marie Kondo in the face. Going through your personal belongings and only keeping what sparks joy? How about when you have to go to Safeway to buy a pair of leggings just so you can have something to wear other than pajama pants?

Screw sparking joy. I just want some underwear.

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Motherhood, PTSD and the Loss of Optimism

May 22, 2018

Strength and perseverance has always come easy to me. I’ve always been a ‘glass half full’ kind of person. To be fair, I haven’t had the hardest life, but I can usually find a very clear path forward whenever the universe decides to make things interesting.

The universe lately has had one sick sense of humor.

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1 in 100

February 12, 2018

My son Apollo will be 8 weeks old on Valentine’s Day. He has a congenital heart defect – severe pulmonary stenosis with double outlet right ventricle. This week is CHD awareness week, which is fitting for it being February 14th. He’s 1 out of 100 kids born with a heart issue.

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