Survival Over Surrender

Real stories from victims of extraordinary circumstances who chose to survive


Announcing the launch of Survival Over Surrender

May 15, 2019
Survival Over Surrender

I’m thrilled to announce the launch of Survival Over Surrender, a new website meant to serve as an outlet for people to share their stories of survival, and to present resources and ways of making it through the day to day post-trauma. Where did SoS come from? When I was living through the worst of my traumas, I was fortunately enough to have the San Francisco Chronicle pick up our story. A reporter and media…

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #6 See a Therapist

July 10, 2019

Repeat after me: therapy is not a dirty word. Mental health is important. There is no shame in seeking professional help to address the areas where I am struggling.

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #5 Be Selfish

June 17, 2019

When It’s Too Much I’ve talked about how in my experience when you’re going through a trauma, most days you just need to focus on being okay and not necessarily worry about making progress in life. Well, sometimes there are bad days. Days like today for me when my mortgage company is struggling to get a check out to our builders who have already begun building our house. Days when you drop the ball for…

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The Narcissist and the Empath

May 23, 2019

Google the relationship between a narcissist and an empath and you can see for yourself, just how toxic that journey can be… well, I survived it and let me tell you, I am still rebuilding myself and that process is going to take some time.

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Fire and Heart: Finding Silver Linings When the Universe Hates You

May 16, 2019
Right after he coded

Hi, I’m Melissa. In October of 2017 I became a victim of the Tubbs Fire that burned through Santa Rosa, California. Then two months later, I gave birth to my son Apollo, who would have four major surgeries before he was eight months old as a result of a severe heart defect.

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To Rebuild or Not to Rebuild

April 25, 2019

After losing our home in the Tubbs fire in October of 2017, we finally just broke ground on our rebuild a few weeks ago and are scheduled to pour our foundation in about a week – over 18 months later.

But back then, we didn’t necessarily know what we were going to do. Should we rebuild? Should we sell the lot and buy a new house? Could we build a manufactured home on my parents’ lot out in the country? Could we sell the lot and build a new house somewhere else?

If you’re in a similar spot after losing your house to a fire, hopefully you can learn from our experience.

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