Survival Over Surrender

Real stories from victims of extraordinary circumstances who chose to survive


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June 19, 2019
Survival Over Surrender

I recently did an interview with Gale Straub of The episode is called After the Wildfire and talks about my plans to thru-hike the Oregon Coast Trail in the summer of 2020. Survival Over Surrender is mentioned in the episode too! You can listen to the episode here. I highly encourage you to subscribe to the podcast on your listening platform of choice. It’s excellently produced and the content, wisdom, and inspiration contained in…

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #6 See a Therapist

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Repeat after me: therapy is not a dirty word. Mental health is important. There is no shame in seeking professional help to address the areas where I am struggling.

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How to Recover from Trauma: Tip #5 Be Selfish

June 17, 2019

When It’s Too Much I’ve talked about how in my experience when you’re going through a trauma, most days you just need to focus on being okay and not necessarily worry about making progress in life. Well, sometimes there are bad days. Days like today for me when my mortgage company is struggling to get a check out to our builders who have already begun building our house. Days when you drop the ball for…

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The Narcissist and the Empath

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Google the relationship between a narcissist and an empath and you can see for yourself, just how toxic that journey can be… well, I survived it and let me tell you, I am still rebuilding myself and that process is going to take some time.

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Fire and Heart: Finding Silver Linings When the Universe Hates You

May 16, 2019
Right after he coded

Hi, I’m Melissa. In October of 2017 I became a victim of the Tubbs Fire that burned through Santa Rosa, California. Then two months later, I gave birth to my son Apollo, who would have four major surgeries before he was eight months old as a result of a severe heart defect.

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